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[QUOTE]Originally posted by NaturalResources: [QB] Now, before I share my thoughts, I want to make a one thing clear: [b]I DO NOT, IN ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM CONDONE THE ACTS COMMITTED BY SCHOOL SHOOTERS.[/b] With that out of the way, I would like to say a few things and I would also like to hear the thoughts of others regarding this topic. Sadly, school shootings have almost become common place in this day and age. Everyone is asking, "How do we prevent another Columbine?", "How do we prevent another VA Tech?". The answers range from stricter gun control laws to tougher standards and psychological evaluations for students. Granted, these may be valid solutions. I am not here to argue that. I started this thread to talk about something else that can be done to possibly prevent these atrocities from happening again, and it requires nothing but changing how you treat others. One thing I have noticed regarding school shootings, is that they all seem to have one thing in common. The Bullies and the Bullied. Most incidents are the acts of those who are picked on getting revenge against those who picked on them, and possibly those who stood by and did nothing while these acts were committed. Probably most of us at some point in our experiences at school have either been a victim of a bully or been a bully ourselves. If you are one of the few who haven't, then you probably knew, or know someone who fits one of those two categories. As someone who was bullied and teased constantly from middle school until high school because I was skinny... I can personally attest to the extreme psychological trauma and life changing effects of being constantly bullied, day in and day out. It has been a long time since I have been in school but I still remember the way it felt, as though it had happened yesterday. The embarrassment. Being singled out and made fun of for something you had little to no control over. The sadness. Wondering why people disliked you so much for something that meant nothing of who you are as a human being. The hopelessness. Feeling like the whole world was against you and you had no one to turn to, like there was nothing left in this life for you. Then the anger. The thirst for revenge, the desire to punish those whom you did nothing to that have made you feel this way, and those who stood idly by and watched. Through the help of family, a close friend, and a couple others who stepped in at times when I was being bullied, I was able to cope with being bullied, and eventually moved beyond letting a bullies actions make me feel less than human. I was able to continue my life and not worry about what those who were shallow thought and said, and focus on my life and those around me whom I cared about, and that cared about me. However, different people deal with the stresses of being bullied in different ways, and unfortunately, some make the horrible decision to not deal with it by killing themselves and or others, as we have seen with the horrible atrocities at Columbine and VA Tech. Again, I am not trying justify these murderous actions. No matter how you are bullied, it does not justify the taking of the lives of others. I am living proof of how the actions of bullies can be overcome without resorting to revenge. What I am trying to say is that there is something very simple that I think many can do that could help prevent the horrible atrocities that are occurring at our nations schools. If you are a bully... Think twice before you bully. Not only are you hurting someone in a way that can scar them for life, you could be hurting someone who is not strong enough spiritually or psychologically to deal with it, and will lash out in a way that could cost lives. If you are one of the bullied... Think twice before you act on your emotions. Don't stoop to the bullies level. Revenge is not the solution. Don't give up on yourself. Your life is worthwhile, and suicide is not the answer. Popularity is overrated. Don't care what the shallow masses think, you don't want friends like that anyway, they are not truely your friends. You will find those who care about you for who you are. It might be hard and take some time, but it will be worth it. Live, and let no-one take away the joy of living from you. If you are neither of the above but know someone who is, or even just have witness someone being bullied... Step in, speak up, say something. Sometimes the difference between a life saved and a life lost can be as simple as being the one voice who speaks up in someone else's darkest hour. NR. [/QB][/QUOTE]
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